We receive a ton of questions. Every week, we select a frequently asked question which we think would be useful to everyone, and we answer it. But we aren't paid to do this, and we don't want to flood this page with questions and answers, so we only answer one question each week, and we keep only the most popular 25 questions.
Update: Any questions related to building and operating a website, see our section on escorts and escort agency websites. There are many questions about escort websites so we created a section just for websites.
You don't absolutely need a website, but you also don't absolutely need to put on makeup before taking photos. The answer is, without a website you're missing out on a ton of opportunities.
Read our website articles section for more information.
All escorts earn a different amount based on how much they charge and what their expenses are, and how many hours they work. But generally you can expect to earn anywhere from $5000 to $30,000 a month.
First, it's a myth. It is extremely difficult to be someone's mistress, especially wealthy people. And the mistress they find are not escorts. Their mistresses are people they have a personal connection with. Usually a secretary or someone they worked with, and they get to know them and like them.
But there are also many escorts who have wealthy repeat clients who visit them every week and buy nice gifts. To find those wealthy clients, you just have to be lucky, and know how to build a relationship with the clients you like. And you know men – if they like you, they will do anything and buy anything for you.
We can't provide legal advice and nothing on this website should be taken as legal advice. You are supposed to pay taxes on your earnings, but unless you issue receipts, the taxman has no idea how much money you are really earning. If you are caught, you can be charged with tax evasion.
Incalls are generally much safer for the escort. Because it is your residence, you control everything. In an outcall, your client can hide weapons or prepare things such as ropes and handcuffs to hold you. Also, they can kidnap and move you to other locations, or there could be other people waiting for you. But incalls are usually in a location where you know the security details, such as cameras and other things. Ideally, your incall is in a secure apartment with cameras, and your apartment has a good view of the entrance so you can see who's coming. Those are the safest.
The first thing you shouldn't do is post photos of yourself with your face! Next, don't post photos with distinct marks such as tattoos or piercings, which other people can recognize. And if there's only one rule you need to follow, don't offer your services in the area where most of your friends and family live in. Offer your services in a neighboring city or municipality. Chances are, even if your friends or family are looking for escort services, they usually won't want to drive over 1 hour to see you.
But if you do bump into one of them as a client, they probably won't say anything either because they would be just as embarrassed as you are. Change your website and phone number immediately and offer your services under a different name.
There are many part-time escorts who come and go. The problem with being a part-time escort is that your fixed expenses (such as renting an in-call, advertising, etc.) are about the same as a full-time escort. So you will earn must less than someone who is full-time. For some escorts, it is a better idea to join an agency.
The best way to earn money part-time, if you want to stay independent, is to build a database of clients you see frequently. Then stay in touch with them and offer special deals for seeing you frequently. You can even have a password-protected website, or send emails to them periodically. There are many clients who prefer building a personal connection with a specific escort and seeing that escort again and again. You will also likely reward your repeat clients with better service each time, to keep them coming back.
This is very tough to answer. We have an article dedicated to the difference of joining an agency vs staying independent, and you should read that. There is no universal answer for everyone. It depends on your needs and expectations.
Yes. In fact, many escorts are putting themselves through college or bringing themselves out of financial difficulty without providing full service. They provide services such as sensual massages with a "happy ending" finish that does not involve actual sex, or simple "dinner and masturbate" sessions. There are many, many clients who are interested in this type of service. In fact, all clients will pay for a good, non-FS session, but there are many clients only interested in non-FS sessions who will never pay for a full service session. In other words, you aren't really losing any clients by providing non-FS sessions. You will also find out that most of your clients are interested in just the companionship of meeting another woman.
Another smart method is to say you don't offer full service, but when your clients show up, you can filter out the good ones from the bad ones and provide full service to only the good ones. Then you can have the best of both worlds!
Absolutely. The future of escorts and providing adult services will be on the Internet. You have everything to lose by not going online, because all your best clients will come through the Internet.
We have an entire section of articles dedicated to escorting and advertising on the Internet. Read the articles.
It depends. There are many benefits of advertising on Craigslist:
It's free (for now, but they will start charging soon)
It's anonymous (for now, but they will require a credit card soon)
A ton of clients scour Craigslist everyday, so there are a lot of clients
It is easy to use, and easy to view
But, there are some downsides as well:
There are many limitations. You can't post full website addresses, it is difficult to upload multiple photos.
For now, it's free. That means anyone can do it!
Many escorts post fake photos and fake information, so clients will likely think you are doing the same.
Craigslist attracts cheap clients, because most escorts there offer cheap services. So your Craigslist clients will try to negotiate.
Many Craigslist clients are time-wasters! They want to send emails to you for more photos so they can masturbate to them, instead of booking appointments.
A lot of escorts also use Craigslist, and it's not unusual for hundreds of new ads to appear everyday. That means you have to keep posting your ad again and again everyday.
So if you are looking to be an escort for a short-time for some quick money and you can tolerate cheap clients, Craigslist is great. A lot of escorts have built their careers on Craigslist. But soon, Craigslist will be cracking down on escort ads and will begin charging for escort ads and they will also remove text which shows what services you offer. Here's some more information.
It is difficult to find good clients, because clients find you, not the other way around. So you have to attract good clients by providing the right services, at the right prices, and most importantly, you must have a smart way of making sure your best clients keep coming back. Get their email address or cell phone number (if they're willing to give it out) and sending them updates is the best way. You can also give them a secret password to a secret section on your website, with special deals only for these good clients. Then you can be sure that anyone who calls for that special deal is a good client.
Many escorts think you absolutely must provide a full girlfriend experience to earn money. While this is true for many of your clients, there are also a lot of clients who respect the fact that you are safe and clean. There are also many definitions of GFE, and different escorts offer different levels of service based on what they think a girlfriend experience should include. By not providing a GFE, you will definitely lose a lot of clients. But you will also sleep better at night.
Any exchange of body fluids (saliva, sperm, etc.) is a potential to transmit sexually transmitted diseases. Don't forget that! The most important thing is to do whatever you are comfortable with, because in the end you will provide better service to your clients if you are also happy.
We can't provide legal advice and nothing on this website should be taken as legal advice. But based on the experience of many escorts, it is safe to say that law enforcement is encouraging escorts to move into private residences. The reason is because escorting will never go away. It is the oldest profession. But if escorts can either provide their services on the streets, or in a private location, law enforcement would prefer that. Law enforcement is much more concerned with under-age escorting and sex trafficking (where girls are brought in from different countries and forced to provide adult services).
We can't provide legal advice and nothing on this website should be taken as legal advice. What happens will depend on the area you live in. In most areas, it is just a minor offence. You might get off easy if it is your first offence. Law enforcement is much more concerned with under-age escorts and sex trafficking (where girls are brought in from different countries and forced to provide adult services).
It totally depends who you ask. Ask any law-maker wanting to pass some tough laws to get support for the next election, and he will tell you that if your boyfriend gives you a gift on your birthday and you have sex afterwards, that is also prostitution.
For many escorts, we do not view it as prostitution. We are trading companionship for something that we agree on (such as money). We can choose to stop whenever we want. We're not forced into it and we're not managed by a pimp who makes us do it.
After all, as any mature, experienced woman would tell you, you will likely run into some loser boyfriend in your lifetime whom you will sleep with 400 times, and you find out he's been cheating on you all along. Many escorts would rather have an arrangement where the guy agrees to pay $200 each time, and walk away with $80,000 instead of bad memories.